Are you one of those people who constantly lies and sugarcoats things to spare people’s feelings? Or, do you tell it how it is?? I would rather know that my haircut looks like shit, my ass looks huge in these pants and my man is cheating on me. These are things a person NEEDS to know. You are not doing them any favors by constantly lying to them. Do you know why? They will have to find out the hard way and be even more hurt. Then, they will come to you and say “Why didn’t you tell me?” and be pissed off. Let’s face it though, you can’t really win. If you do tell your friends the truth from the beginning they really DON’T appreciate that candor either. I have angered many friends by simply telling the truth when they ask for my opinion. I try my best to put a positive spin on my answer. For example: Friend: “Do these pants make my butt look big?” Me: “Well yes, a little bit. But hey, they wrote a whole song about Baby’s Got Back and some guys are really into that.” Not helpful?? Sorry, you really shouldn’t ask a smart-ass for their opinion, ever. Unless maybe you have already broke up with the guy I told you was a pig. Now, we can laugh about him and I can point out all of his flaws that I was keeping to myself. It will be therapeutic, I promise. In the end, if you want the truth come to me. If you want to be delusional, ask your mom how your hair looks; she thinks you’re beautiful no matter what.